One day and one night.
No kids and no husbands.
I recently took an overnight trip to Boston with six of my best friends. We went simply to shop, eat and drink; not necessarily in that order. We needed to reset and recharge and spend some time just being us; not mom, not wife, not employee.
As I was walking out the door, the feelings of guilt started to rush in. Should I really be going, do I really need to go, am I a bad mom for going? I know my husband is more than capable of taking care of the kids, that wasn’t the issue. The issue was my guilt and anxiety (we’ll get into that more in a later post!). And I know the rest of the girls all shared similar feelings. But once we got our coffees, got in the car, got the music going, and most importantly, got together, everything seemed fine. Because it was fine. It is okay to go away every once in a while, in fact, it’s important. It’s important to have down time, it’s important to relax and it’s important to have fun. After all, life is short, right?
We arrived, checked in, had a mimosa (or two!) and set out for Newbury Street. We shopped, we ate, we drank (mostly champagne!) and laughed all day. We laughed so much that honestly, the backs of my ears hurt. It felt good. It felt good to spend time with some of the best people I know and be able to actually engage in uninterrupted conversation with them. We made some great memories and came home feeling happy. We were happy to be home after having a great weekend and ready to take on the new week. We were refreshed. And, now, we’re already discussing our next trip!
So, what’s the point of my story?! I don’t know. But, I do know that friends are a pinnacle part of life and I am blessed to have great ones. It’s important to nurture these relationships because it helps you maintain your sanity. And, I also believe you can teach your kids to be a good friend by being a good friend. They watch, they listen and they learn. Friends help you get through the day to day, they pick you up when you are down and they support you no matter what. They walk your dog when you’re stuck at work. They bring your kids home from school when you’re home with a puker. They know your coffee order and surprise you with a cup, just because. They drop what they are doing and pick you up when you have a flat tire. They bring you ice cream and wine every single week for seven months when your baby is sick in the hospital. They pray endlessly and stock your freezer when you are taking care of an ailing parent. Family is a priority and we all know that. But, friends are family too.
The takeaway? Go plan a girls night out, or even better, a girls weekend away! Make time even if you think you don’t have it. You will be glad you did.
“A friend is one of the best things you can have, and one of the best things you can be.”
Pour vous, Henrietta. We love you.